Thanks for the advice Dave and thankyou to Bikeracer98 for being on the phone for half ano hour last night. I'll be sorting the house ownership and a binding agreement this or next week hopefully.
Hope you get sorted out, Megs. From what I've heard divorce sounds like one of the most difficult times of people's lives. Seems to be an ever-increasing occurrence too. I'd like to be able to give you some sage advice but I've never been married and don't have any inclination to do so. Fortunately my girlfriend is in the process of going through a divorce and says that she never ever wants to be married again so it looks like I might not have to argue about it.
I am no expert and I am not touting for business as it is not my area of expertise, but if it is of any help, I can put you in touch with one of my colleagues who works out of our Wallington office who is a divorce lawyer, and I think I am right in saying that if it is fairly straightforward he can offer a fixed fee legal representation. He would certainly have a chat with you with no obligation.
I'm lucky, I have a decent wifey. We can all be a pain in the arse with each other to be fair, but I feel it's a bit of give and take, and making " hubby and wife time" once a week works wonders. Been mostly happily married 17yrs, so it's all good. like I said on the phone Alan, it's a shame dude, but I think you'll come out of it ok mate. Doesn't have to be 100% final, separation can work wonders dude. who knows, you may get back together after a few mths apart.... It does happen.
Yes please TC. Thanks. Hope you're right Si, but I don't think I could go through this hell again. I did seriously consider a visit to Beachy Head!
and our lass wonder why i don't want to get married....... dude chin up. it must be hard but you will get though it, iv have mates i really messes with the ex's and yes from the outside looking in its much easier!!! and fella just "judging" you on what people think of you on here alone saying you visit beachy head ...... you have more to give to the world!!!! Get yourself good legal advice.... looks like there is a few good guy who can talk first hand about it..... this is just a rough patch it will work out
If you are happy to PM me a contact number and a time when it will be convenient, I will get my colleague Chris Wilson to give you a call and you can have a chat 1 to 1 rather than go through me.
Hi mate, I know how you feel. And what you are going through, I got divorced 10 years ago and with regards to money it got messy, in the end I agreed to pay off the mortgage, give my ex the house, settle all the credit card bills but on the agreement she never had a claim on my pension fund and never had the right to come back for anything else, all this was done through a solicitor (who cost an effing arm and leg). I lost touch with my kids as a result for a few years but in the end got back in touch with my son and helped him through uni but my daughter was different, I have only just been able to meet her and start building a relationship again which is great. I remarried 6 years ago to the most wonderful women you could ever wish for, I am in regular contact with my kids, both of whom are adults really and I met my ex wife recently at my sons wedding which was a bit strained but by the end of the reception we were getting on pretty well. I am a glass half full person and always believe things will get better. Look to the future, keep positive, don't lose your perspective on life and most of all keep talking to friends. Good luck mate and hope things improve.
After 11 years of marriage and 2 kids I got divorced, gave the house and mortgage to the other half, got joint custody of the kids and I moved on. The kids kept us in touch with each other and over the years we settled our differences and this spring after 23 years we remarried. So be warned anything can happen. Keep your sanity and your health, hope things work out okay for you in the future.
Hey Mega, I havn't been here long enough to get to know you, but what a bummer! Life can be a real bitch sometimes but time is a fabulous healer... hang in there buddy, do the right thing and in time to come you can hold your head up high and have a great life! Good luck & keep the faith, for every bad day, there's a good one just round the corner.... not much help atm I know but think positive....
Your welcome Allan. The old saying 'A problem shared is a problem halved' is a load of tosh but so is sticking your head in the sand and bottling it up. I am still finding the odd grain of sand now and again.
Woah woah.... No mention of the bike, you did get to keep custody of her right?? Ps. All the best and sometimes it becomes a new beginning with new challenges and adventures
She got all my money and a mortgage on my place to help buy her place. I get to keep everything else, unless she changes her mind !!!
An ex of mine, did a standard seperate for 2 years followed by an online divorce, i think like your suggesting. he gave her 70/30 on the house sale, 600 quid a month maintenance for 2 kids, agreed half the pension. After 6 years she came back and was allowed to take him to court for 12k, as the original divorce wasnt considered 'full and final' settlement. Get legal advice, stay nice, stay friendly. If it goes tits up its you that suffers. The law is an arse and shouldnt lean towards the woman, it should be worked out on individual case. Sorry to hear your situation though x
