Just had a customer walk in and told me he has short term memory loss.He wanted a headlamp bulb fitted to his car.Got this far by a copper writing it down for him.I asked him what car it is for and he couldn't remember.So we embarked outside into the carpark with various bulbs on me,for him to look confused because he couldn't remember where he parked it.What colour is it? can't remember! What make is it? No idea! The only way I could see what car his was was by pressing his remote.I fitted the bulb then we went back in the shop.He paid me then got onto the subject of his memory loss.He has lost his memory progressing worse since his wife died 3 years ago.No family and few friends. His neighbour helps him but he struggles with dealing with life.He doesn't want to go into a home cos he is very fit and cannot sit about.He became tearful. This man shocked me because he is so vulnerable.I have given him my card and said if he has any problems ring me and I will help him if I can.My wife is a private carer too.I recommended him to try Age concern,so that he can meet new friends of his age and see them during the day. Just as he was leaving he turned and said have I paid you? I saw him to his car and wished him well. Poor fella, Any other suggestions for him if he rings me??
Poor Fulla, That's the sorta folk those so called tree surgeons and gutter cleaners an the like love to find when goin round chappin doors to rummage up business for doin pretty much sod all!
not sure what setup you have over there but over here we have nhs run centers for people with illnesses like that.its assisted living so they can come and go during the day as much as they please.
It's such a sad story and thankfully he came across somebody that was honest and had a genuine interest in his well being. It's a difficult situation but he certainly sounds in need of professional help, you also may find going by your story he may completely forget your offer of help and you may never see him again.
How many times did you let him pay you Im jokin dont berate me,glad you looked after him it could happen to anyone
That's a really touching story SW ... I can't imagine living like that . He so needs someone to look after his wellfare . Its a good job he found you and not some chancer
Well done dude on your kindness My dad suffered with dementia before he passed away last yr, a brilliant mind and heart breaking see him unable to do the basic of things like make a cup of tea or remember where the lav is We always found leaving him notes round the house helped and for at least 1 of us to be on hand and at home to look after him. It could happen to any of us, such a terrible condition this is
definitely a horrible illness, before I started work in a general hospital I worked closely with sufferers in a mental health hospital for a couple of years and it was shocking at the rate some people deteriorated. one patient came in and used to chat away to me and apologize when they dropped the odd misplaced word into a sentence saying there head was away with it.less than six months later the same patient couldnt remember me or even figure out how to use a knife and fork.One doctor said as bad as it is most learn to cope in what is now their own wee world without worry or stress.there is a history of it in my family and I sometimes worry about what family member will be the next to get it.
thats a touching story and just as well he met you and not some scum fraudster. our neighbour of 18 years has developed dementia over last few years and is looked after by her elderly husband and they have 3 daughters that in turn visit every day. got talking to 1 of them last week and asked about mum and she said mum doesn,t know who we are anymore. that really got to me. i,d hate to end up like that. sad life at times.
This makes me feel glad we still have some honest people about Sideways - others would have had his leg up mate - well done. I always say treat people how you would like to be treated
Cheers folkes wanted to share it with you cos even as I write this tonite I still think about the poor bloke.Lets hope he gets the help he needs and quick.
My ex girlfriends nan had dementia and was so sad to see when family visited her that she only recognised them about 10% of the time
Good on ya fella. Sounds like the poor guy is in desperate need of some help. Can you not raise your concerns with the local Age Concern or council Social Care department?
nice one bud, as they say "what comes aroud,goes around"... Be good and it will be given to u...? or something like that? ;p
Well done Jez, doesn't cost anything to be pleasent to someone. Bet he wouldn't have got that kind of time in Halfrauds!
