The good: So, due to the bank of my ex-wife, her husband and me his dad. My youngest is about to embark on the gap year trip of a life time. Starting next month in Rio de Janeiro for a few days R&R on the beach before leaving for the Amazon Rain forest, Paraguay, Uruguay, Argentina, Ecuador and Chile before finishing S America in Peru, visiting just about everything worth seeing on that continent. He will then leave Lima on a flight to Madrid. He already speaks more or less fluent Spanish anyway as my ex-wife is Spanish so this will add to his ability to be multi lingual. After 9 days in Spain visiting family he will then fly on to Australia to meet up with his girlfriend via Singapore and Hong Kong. The bad: Given my ex-wife is taking him to the Heathrow when he leaves, and me not wanting to cause a bad atmosphere I have agreed not to go to the T5……..But………….I came up with a plan to surprise him by flying to Rio with his older brother the day before and meeting him at his hotel for a few days “dad and his boys, beer and bonding” on the beach before giving him the kind of hug only a dad and his son can have before he leaves on his big adventure. But, and it’s a big…….my ex-wife found out today and is not happy about this and has totally screwed it up by booking herself and her husband on the same flight as my son to Rio. Game over. The f&ucked up: I don’t quite know if I am angry or upset, it’s very fine line. I am going to blow either way in the next day or two, the slightest thing will bring it on. Only those that know me, know I am capable losing the plot completely or just crawling under a stone and staying there, either way it’s not going to be nice. I can’t call it at the moment, I am numb, and have already apologised to L in advance, She has seen it all before and is already giving me a very wide berth which she shouldn’t have to, it’s not her fault. It could be worse: I spoke to BA this afternoon and luckily as I fly with them on a regular basis for work they are prepared to let me change the Rio tickets for somewhere else so I won’t have lost all that money, but, that’s not really the point is it. So I have told L she can pick her destination for a holiday during April as my oldest son is was going to Rio and he is not interested in coming with us. I am sure she will pick somewhere nice but it’s going to be bitter sweet. Silver lining: I have though work or pleasure visited most of the planet but never been to Australasia. I don’t give a flying f&uck what my ex-wife thinks, or does I am planning to go and see my youngest son whilst he is in Australia. That’s the silver lining I am hanging on to. Either that or, it’s revert to the totally fucked up paragraph above. I will get over it, I always do.
I'll be in Australia between June 29th and early September. Don't know where , don't know when. You were there for me during my separation and divorce. Let's meet up , for a proper pi$$ up ???
Ex-wives. Have one and can sympathise. Sucks when they want to play games that have effects on the time you spend with kids who are yours also, and arrangements about you seeing/spending time with them. Sounds like you're trying to do the best you can and not get too sucked up into her games. Oh... and I've only visited Australia once, but it was awesome, so hope you can have an amazing time there. Good luck and best wishes.
A wise man once said to me... I think it might have been you... God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. I'm not a religious man at all though, so I think it needs a bit of alteration. Ken, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. There. That's better. I like that.
Break ups are hard on kids, so any Mum worth her name would love the idea of her boys having bonding time with their dad. What sort of f*%&ed hell-hound would want to p!$$ on that bonfire?!?! She's trashing her kid's fun just to get at you. Beggars belief!
Karma will catch up with her in the long run! Because what goes around comes around in my experience. Just have another great time with the lads somewhere else
That's x-wife's for you,think a lot of us have been there maybe not in the scenario your having to endure,such a shame she found out and stopped your father/son bonding time.but the silver lining sounds great..my wife's put up with masses of shite over the years concerning my x-wife..
Fecking biatch!!! 1). For a starter, have you seen her flight ickets? 2). Can she and her new lap dog afford the flights to Rio? If so.... 3). Your paying the bag too much maintenance. 4). Book yourself and your son in first fecking class to Rio and make the hell-hound (love that expression) and the lapdog feel inadequate. I personally would offer to then share a taxi to the airport and let them stand in cattle class while you walk on through!! Fecking bingo!
I'd go with the meeting somewhere else route and be happy in the knowledge you've made her book a flight out for her and hubby for no good reason now as U won't be at the other end.
my god you didn't, I couldn't go there, not for a minute........................it isn’t going to happen but I might given the opportunity but that's just between you and me......right!
So L rearranged the holiday.......excellent I said, where are we going then.............Venezuela I got BA to sort it out via code share so we are going to a little island called Los Roques where you can practice your Spanish……………… A day later and it’s not happening BA called and there is a problem with the flights, so L picked a direct flight location………..Barbados………but that turned to rat shit as well. So, today it’s now done…. A bit of a refund and we are going to the Dominican again, different place but the same country as November/December. I really couldn’t give a flying F, it’s going to be warm, sunny and I won’t be at work. Sounds good to me and I get some money back…..happy days.
